Besides this being a famous song by Cher "If I could turn back time", the question came to me today.
If I could turn back time, would I?
This is no doubt not as simple as it may sound. In some cases perhaps we always wish we could turn back time to change that decision that we wish we hadn't made. Or perhaps those words that we said, or worse, left unsaid. Maybe in those cases it is understandable that we wish we could turn back time.
When I look at my teen daughters I sometimes wish I could turn back time to have them as smaller girls again that we could just re-enjoy those times again, and perhaps add some more. Instead time just flies us past.
I sometimes wish I could turn back time 21 years ago when my brother committed suicide. Even if it was just to try understand what his problems were at the time, perhaps I could convince him otherwise.
SO I guess it is totally human to want to always go back and change time. Most times such decisions no doubt would be linked to emotional times that we wish we could re-have or do better the second time around.
But I must admit, if it comes to the push, and I think about this question and detach myself emotionally, I guess the answer would be NO. I wouldn't want to turn back time.
Because I believe your life is made with those decisions at the cross roads,T junctions, yield signs and stop signs that come your way. And sometimes the events by others that you didn't even choose. Be they made under duress and sometimes not to your liking, the road you take influences you as soon as you have made the decision. The people you met who influenced you positively, and sometimes even negatively, come what may, they are part of the life that is yours. SO to go back and erase a portion of this life is perhaps not the best decision. Plus sometimes we have to live with the choices we made, the words we said or didn't say, the actions we wished we had done or wish undone.
At the end of it all, I guess our life is not a perfect oval or square, or even a perfect straight path. It has its twists and turns and that is what makes it interesting and gives us character.
As Angelor said here http://letterdash.com/angelor/a-whiter-shade-of-black-part-2-a-blacker-shade-of-white you need darkness to appreciate the light - the stars are so much better in a pitch black sky!
So, would you go and turn back time if you could???
Me? I'm moving on to Today and Tomorrow
LG
3 comments:
I agree with all of this. There are a few times I wish I would have said or hadn't said something but I've also learned from those times. The things that have happened to me in the past or that I've done (or haven't), have made me who I am today.
Yes RaeAnn, that's how we live and learn - from our experiences. And as you said every single experience and every single individual somehow has an effect on whom we are today. Thanks for the visit
LG
Kia ora LG,
It is the culmination of all the moments litle or big that make us who we are. Slowly I learn to recognize the importance of each moment so that I do not later regret having left something unsaid, or undone. Especially a smile, a hug, or saying I love You.
I am sorry to read about your brother, my best friend took his own life when we were 15, and not a day goes by still at 50 I do not think about him. It damaged me for a long time, perhaps still does, but I have learned to not look back in anger, at him or myself.
So no I would not either. The things I have done right, or wrong, all add up to who I am sitting here writing this. I am okay with that. Nice place you have here LG, appreciate the thoughts. Kia kaha.
Cheers,
Robb
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